So it is dumb for us to dislike each other now. Don’t get me wrong: You made me mad, and you really hurt me. But I honestly don’t think that you realized how much you hurt me.

I never meant to hurt you. I promise I’ll never do it again, so please forgive me.” But the feelings of betrayal are so deep and so hurtful that forgiveness can feel impossible.

You're sorry, so it's important to make sure the other person understands your remorse. "Sorry" is a good word, but it's not always specific enough to feel genuine to the person you hurt.

In the meantime, you’re going to have to accept the fact that until she has found it in her heart to try and forgive you, she is likely going to bring up things that went wrong in the past on a ...

In the music video to “ (Please Don’t) Leave Me Now,” McFerrin’s old self shows up for her new one. We see the singer, pale and cowering on the grass: She is lying in her grave.

I hurt someone who cared about me, and I want to apologize for that, but I don’t want to open the door to a relationship. Can you help?

Then, you can decide if you want to continue on together or go your separate ways. (Send questions to R. Eric Thomas at eric@askingeric.com or P.O. Box 22474, Philadelphia, PA 19110.

When he’s done, you can say, “Well, it’s not really funny, it embarrasses me, I don’t like it, and I wish you would stop.” Dear Amy: My husband and I married on Christmas Day.