A video of a woman cutting a wedding cake without the bride and groom has gone viral on TikTok. The video received over 25 million views and sparked serious debate among TikTokers.

The cake cutting usually comes near the end of the wedding reception. Schedule the cutting so that older guests or young children can leave without feeling as if they would be offending anyone.

Many wedding traditions are still alive: the flower girls and ring bearers; the vows; the kiss; the “I do,” the cutting of the cake; the first dance.