Thank you for asking.” People’s responses will vary. Some may be able to hold it and express compassion. Some people may get uncomfortable. Again, that’s not about you. It’s often about ...

I'm not keen to (thank her children) for a bequest that was A. not of their generosity, and B. handled entirely by lawyers.

Sure, the right thing for your daughter-in-law (and the kids) to do, is to also make sure you know the gifts are appreciated. But, for many families, one thank you note suffices. I’m curious ...